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What’s Afoot with the Foot Fetish?
December 9, 2009
A young woman asked me last week what to do about her boyfriend’s foot fetish. The first thing I asked her was, “What’s the problem?” Some people like breasts, some like butts or legs, and yes, some get aroused by feet.
Labeling an turn-on a fetish can be a put down, since our society tends to consider fetishes a sign of metal illness. In truth, though, a specific turn-on is only a problem if it interferes with someone’s life and relationships. If two people can accept and adapt to the specific sexual interest, they can incorporate it successfully into their relationship.
The woman who asked me about her boyfriend’s attraction to feet may, once she stops worrying about it, enjoy having her feet caressed, sucked, licked or masturbated on. If, however, she finds the attention annoying, she needs to tell her partner. Perhaps they can compromise by incorporating occasional footplay into their sex life but not letting it dominate every interaction.
An arousal pattern can veer into unhealthy behavior if it interferes with someone’s life and ability to have the relationships that person may want to have. In these instances, it’s time to talk with an AASECT-certified sex therapist.
If you’re OK with highly specific turn-ons and more consuming sexual fetishes, you can find many informational sources online, including the Fetish Information Exchange .
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