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Parents Need Sex Ed, Too!
July 10, 2009
A woman is suing an Egyptian hotel, claiming her 13-year-old daughter became pregnant from swimming in a mixed-gender pool. Hmm.
I empathize with this mom’s interest in protecting her daughter’s reputation, and I understand why she might want to deny that her daughter had violated her familiar and/or religious prohibitions against pre-marital sex. However, if Mom were to take her blinders off for a minute, she might forgo the lawsuit and ask her daughter whether the sexual intercourse she engaged in was consensual. If the girl was pressured into having sex, she may benefit from talking with a rape counselor. She also needs to have her daughter tested for sexually transmitted infections.
“Wait,” one may ask, “Why did you jump to the conclusion that the girl had intercourse?” Because sperm dies instantly in chlorinated pool water. And if by some miracle the sperm could survive, it would have been scattered throughout the pool after a male ejaculated into the open water, and other females might have been impregnated, too.
The fact that this girl’s mom isn’t aware that a swim-by impregnation couldn’t have occurred indicates that she needs to learn about sexual reproduction and how it can be prevented. And she needs to share her new knowledge with her daughter to prevent a second unplanned pregnancy. She should also talk with her daughter about sexual decision making — 13 is a very young to be sexually active, and it puts the girl at increased risks for sexual coercion, sexually transmitted infections, and feelings of regret.
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i need for some information about sex after pregnancy.
my wife delivery last 2 month back can i sex with her, i mean is it safe for her
Dear Prashant,
The typical waiting period is after the woman’s first post-delivery medical exam, which is about 6 weeks after delivery. The doctor/midwife will determine whether intercourse is OK. Regardless of the medical advice, your wife may not be ready. She may still be sore, she is likely exhausted from taking care of the baby around the clock, and her hormones may not be back to normal, which means she may not feel much interest in sex. She may be afraid of getting pregnant right away. Have an honest chat with her about your interest in resuming sexual activity. She may be willing to be intimate in other ways, especially if you lighten her work load around the house or with the baby.
Melanie