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How to End Your Wedding Day with a Bang!
April 17, 2009
Wedding night sex has been a big deal since marriage was invented, and it can make even experienced lovers nervous. It’s as if “I do” makes the marriage legal, but getting naked seals the deal. You and your spouse-to-be probably wonder:
- What should I wear?
- Should I keep my makeup on?
- Am I supposed to know the ropes?
- What if I’m too tired?
- What if I’m too drunk?
- What if the sex is awful?
Relax. In the long run, it won’t matter what the sex was like on your wedding night. What matters is the attitude you have about sex. If you’ve got a negative attitude, the sex will be lousy. If you see sex as a way to express love, to be intimate, to de-stress and to have fun, the rest will take care of itself. Even on your wedding night.
Establishing a habit of talking about sex without embarrassment both before you have sex, during, and after. It gets easier in time. Discuss birth control several months before the wedding, and select protection that makes you both comfortable.
Early on your wedding day, send your honey an “I can’t wait to be alone with you” note or a romantic gift of scented bubble bath, massage oil or candles. When you’re finally alone after the festivities, put on lingerie that makes you feel gorgeous (guys, silk boxers look and feel great). If you’re not generally into lingerie, consider this: a wedding or commitment ceremony makes a gift of your body and soul to your partner. Lingerie is like sexy wrapping that reveals a very special gift!
If you’re too exhausted for sex, say so. You may decide together that lovemaking can wait until you’re rested in the morning. Or, get a second wind by taking a restorative soak (alone or together) in a bubble bath. Nibble on serotonin-rich chocolate so you’ll be more responsive to touch, and then swap sensual massages.
When you get together, explore your partner’s body with as much curiosity and admiration you’d want your partner to explore yours with — even if you’ve had sex many times before. If things don’t go perfectly, there’s always tomorrow.
Your first official night as a couple is an important passage in your life . Enjoy it, savor it, but don’t take it too seriously. You’ve got a lifetime to practice.
